tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452645648437706747.post2520948082151840896..comments2013-07-14T23:43:25.671-04:00Comments on Parvati Devi: Ask Parvati 25: Depression and Despair - Part 2: Witnessing DespairParvati Devihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05605266879790789014noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452645648437706747.post-28176090646891464142011-08-18T21:18:53.312-04:002011-08-18T21:18:53.312-04:00When we feel despair, we have given up on the good...<i>When we feel despair, we have given up on the goodness of life. Life has shrunk down to the size of our own self-importance, which at this time is convinced we suck and are worthless. We have lost the big picture. We have bought into the temptation to feel disconnected and hard done by.</i><br /><br />Oh boy, have I ever been there, and done that, and seen others go there and do that. What I've learned is that, as you say, it's kryptonite. To believe such a dark, distorted picture is to go off path.Pranadahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08602387063784879219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452645648437706747.post-62077487790478552222011-08-15T16:02:02.502-04:002011-08-15T16:02:02.502-04:00Wow. I received a phone call from someone last nig...Wow. I received a phone call from someone last night, who was feeling a lot of despair, which was brought on by something she did and felt terrible about. Feelings of judgment of self and judgment from others only exacerbated the situation. Nothing I said could change her mind that she was a terrible person. The feelings of "I suck" can have a strong hold over us. As friends or family of those people, we have to be careful not to force our opinion about them or about the situation on them, which can make the feelings of "I suck" only worse. All we can do is witness with love and compassion and guide them toward seeing possibilities again. Sometimes it takes all we have not to get sucked into the drama.Sunanda Jordonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01759402320377540081noreply@blogger.com